My Daughter: Why She Makes Every Day Mother’s Day

Through the last 20 years I have been complimented, hearing comments like: “Such a kind, considerate, compassionate young lady you have there”! I noticed the natural inner-magnet my daughter possessed when she was only a few months old. I quickly saw the innate ability God had put in her to capture the attention of even people simply passing her in the stroller. I was in awe! They would make it a point to come over to us. As odd as it seemed, I realized it had to be much deeper than just cute baby syndrome.

I claimed and captured every moment to build on that for God’s glory. I knew that I had to build on it so that one day she would know it was a gift and turn to God for her strength and peace. I knew early on that He was preparing her for something special and specific.

As she grew into the toddler years, her sincere meekness shined bright like a glowing jewel. The fact that such a young child could speak in such mature ways was almost unbelievable to others. Her courteousness and kindhearted ways was a mystery to them because they just couldn’t believe the words that came from her mouth – one that only belonged to a toddler.

This response grew and grew and grew. She would speak in such eloquent and thoughtful sentences. I, of course, had been thanking God for this all along. I heard comments like “Wow, I didn’t expect that response from such a tiny girl!” The reply I gave them was a smile and a sincere, “Thank you very much.” Because I was grateful in so many ways, I could only show gratitude.

This unique magnetic pull has never left her and she still exudes confidence and inner peace… and a burdened heart for others. For that I thank God with every breath. She has turned to Him for everything and hears His heart regarding others in her life. Although she started out very shy and is still very meek and lady like (thankfully!), she has learned that the slightest nice thing one person does for another can affect that person for life. The attention was being reciprocated by her caring heart.

I often (too often really) see children being not only disrespectful of those around them but it seems to go another level. They have no inkling of how to think of others first at any given moment. Their “equipment” is lacking. You are probably thinking “what!” What equipment can you give your child to be one that everyone enjoys being around instead of the alternative?

It all comes down to this… seize every moment. Don’t let a minute go by from day one to begin equipping your child. Of course all children come wired with different personalities, but that is not an issue, it is a blessing!

One problem is that consequences are often taught to kids who are already misbehaving… but what if all children were taught the consequences from day one? What if they knew ahead of time the consequence of a harsh tone of voice they might use. Or the result of a “bothered look” given to a hurting person. What if they knew the consequence of harmful pride and of thinking of themselves first. What if, as a parent, we would always give our kids a full explanation from the beginning instead of a curt “no” or “don’t do that” with no education as to why.

Tell them the “WHY” or “WHY NOT” of a situation before they are ever presented with the choice. Explain what happens in life if they do one thing or another. It is kind of like learning to drive a car… you learn first the rules and consequences, THEN you get behind the wheel and try it out. While you are driving you are constantly thinking about what you should do next to drive safely and avoid the bad consequences.

If we treat our children that way and bring them up with the knowledge and correct equipment, then the world would be full of kind, considerate, compassionate adults. If all parents talked to their children as if they were the individuals they truly are, and realize that our “ways” of teaching our children have their own consequences, then we would probably all get along a lot better in this world.

My child happened to be born with the innate ability to draw people to her like a magnet. But that was not and is not a prerequisite, it just made me realize what I should do.

All people are born with their own unique gifts thanks to a loving, caring God. I simply took what God showed me as a foundation block to build on, and I turned to Him for every parenting step.

I learned a tremendous lesson; one to treasure and now to teach. I knew I had to seize the opportunity from the beginning to equip my child with the desire to think and pray and be concerned with others at all times. Equip your kids and let the people around them rejoice at how pleasantly different they are in comparison to the tons of kids that are running amok. Seize every moment to be proud of your kids.

I KNOW I am a proud parent, BUT I am also a proud friend and Sister to this lovely human being I am blessed to call Daughter.

A Mother’s Day note to my daughter, because she’s the best Mother’s Day gift I’ve ever received:

Congrats, Emmy, on another university semester on the Dean’s list with a 4.0 AND working so diligently that at only 1/3 of the way through to your Religion degree you have achieved a Certificate of Biblical Studies AND begun your Apologetics studies (with me!) at RZIM Academy!!!

You. Are. Awesome!!!

From dancer to apologetics/theology student, your calling has touched so many lives. I can not begin to even describe how proud I am to know you!

Happy Mother’s Day to you all; to the mothers and grandmothers and all the beautiful women who care for others like a mother would. God bless you all.

~ Heather

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The Reason the Younger Generations Have Abandoned Christianity

There is a majority of a couple of generations out there that sees Christianity as a religion and not a relationship, a perch of self-righteousness instead of a doorstep of love, and a pulpit instead of a heart. Christ followers must all live each day so that humbleness, love, and compassion shows. We must show God’s heart.

Why are these generations turning away?

I believe it is because The Church has largely failed to acknowledge them, include them, and show them love. I certainly know a lot of churches (the people in the buildings) who are not failing at these things, but up until the past few years it appears The Church as a whole has really dropped the ball on these younger generations. The statistics of young people not living a life for Christ are staggeringly scary.

However, if we each meet these generations where they are with love that they recognize as genuine, then they won’t be on the outside looking away. They will be looking in saying, “I want that peace.” They will want to know who this Jesus is.

Live Blessed,
Heather

HALLOWEEN

Halloween is tomorrow.  I don’t enjoy the arguing that goes on over it. I don’t enjoy arguing at all.

“Clearly no Christians ought to be glorifying death, because death was defeated, and that was the point of All Hallows Eve.” {Kirk Cameron}

I don’t “do” Halloween decor, but I think dressing up is fun even though I usually don’t dress up since it is so much work!! Sometimes we go to a Fall Festival party at church. And God certainly works through those things and community outreach is a wonderful thing.

But I wonder…

Why do those who follow Christ actually want to do the whole death and gore and destruction part of Halloween? Fun? I‘m certain fun can be had without it. {Come to my house. You WILL laugh. } I doubt if Jesus were there physically it would be fun. At least it would not be for Him – the One who died a gruesome death to defeat all that.


There I go again… Pushing “hot topic” buttons, right? It’s just me living #ALLIN and not part way in. I want to make my Jesus smile. And a princess outfit would go a lot further towards a smile then a gruesome killer costume.


We taught our daughter the truth about the holidays (Holy Days) that go into this and how it’s changed through the years. Obviously parents should make their own decisions – those who don’t participate are doing the right thing and those who do but tell their kids the truth about it and do it for the fun of gathering together in a non-death-celebrating way are doing the right thing too. God can be a part of both and most certainly is.

It’s what’s in each heart that matters, and our hearts celebrate what we let our brains throw a party for even if we know better. It’s all in the choice.

On the fall festival note: Many churches see fall festival parties (some on that night and others on different nights) as outreaches to the community where someone might come to know Jesus and even to church fellowship later. I would not limit God or put Him in a box so as to say He wouldn’t work through these things. If their heart and soul are in it for Jesus, then certainly He would bless it. I’ve seen many children benefit from these.

And no one could say my daughter was adversely affected by it when she lives for Jesus more at her age then most adults I know. I agree that Christians should have absolutely nothing to do with the horror and gore etc, but I also believe God when He says only He can see into the heart and know. I’m sad when Christians do the haunted house and other junk. Jesus wouldn’t do it or approve I believe.

But Satan is not in anything God doesn’t allow. He allowed him in the death and gore, but we don’t have to participate in that, nor do we have to allow him in the festivities that are not of those things.

The earth is the LORD’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it; ~ Psalm 24:1

Live blessed,

Heather

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