How much is too much? How far is too far? How little is too little? How trustworthy is our word?


I literally can not count the amount of posts I have read, messages I have received, articles I have read, etc from people who have constant comments and complaints and excuses about having too much to do in life, too many commitments, and not enough time and energy. When we make commitments we should make every effort to stick to them.

We should not “exchange” things to a backburner – or worse yet, to no burner – when something (or someone) better comes along. We need to learn that people count on our commitment, they plan around it. They believe us when we say we will be there for them.

I read lots of complaints about how people are just plain worn out because they took on too much, not even thinking about all their friends who are worn out because they are taking care of an aging or sick loved one, or they are chronically ill and only wish they were worn out simply because they overscheduled themselves.

And what about our being designed to need rest?

We are commanded to rest, yet nearly everything I hear is how people are just exhausted.

He said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a remote place and rest for a while.” For many people were coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat. ~ Mark 6:31

Therefore, a Sabbath rest remains for God’s people. For the person who has entered His rest has rested from his own works, just as God did from His. Let us then make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will fall into the same pattern of disobedience. ~ Hebrews 4:9-11


Those voices {rare among us but I learned long ago to be one} that say how when they learned to discern what they should say “yes” to and kept their commitments their lives were fulfilled to a greater degree. And they were not letting people down. Why do we do this to ourselves and others?

It even spills over into our everyday language:

“Let me know if you need anything,” said to a widow or an ill friend. Most won’t ask because they don’t want to be a burden, so we should just offer our love, take over dinner, a gift, even a phone call, mow their lawn, or even send a beautiful card in the mail. We can’t keep up with everyone in every situation. That’s understandable. But those we are face to face with and are a part of our lives? Give them a piece of your eternity. It’s who we were made to be.

“I’ll pray about it,” said as an excuse instead recognizing it as a mandate on your soul. Tim Hawkins, comedian, posted something on his FB wall this week that made people giggle … and I would guess wiggle. He wrote “Christians, let your yet be yes and your no be ‘I’ll pray about it.” Sure, we should all pray about our choices, our potential commitments, but we should never use the holiness of prayer to be our excuse, our slough off. We should always stay honest. It is who we were made to be.

“Thanks in advance for your grace,” said to someone who asked something nicely of us. That’s basically, not always but in general, like saying “No matter what I committed to you have to understand why I’m backing out now” or “No matter that I could say yes and it would be virtually no burden, you must understand and accept I am not interested in what interests you. I will not be supporting you.” How about we let each other show us gratefulness and grace and understanding before we force feed it to them? It’s many times just a “nice” way to shrug someone off and THAT is where it goes wrong. Give a person a loving response even when you can’t commit or something major legitimately gets in the way of your original commitment, and let them feel the love. It’s who we were made to be.

“I just don’t have the time to do that even though I said I would” said to the ones we’ve committed to when they can clearly see we do have the time. It’s especially visible how much time we all had in a given day by how much goes on our social media. Understandably, we all need our play time! But once we commit and then not follow through, it hurts people we’ve committed to, the people our commitment would have affected, and our relationships. Brothers and Sisters, humankind… we need to value with each other that which is valued. We need to support each other by our actions AND our words. It is who we were made to be.

I’m just talking about living with complete integrity. Are we all doing that all the time?

God, help to let our “yes” be “yes” and determine to keep our commitments as best we can. Help us to think of how our lack of commitment effects others and how our “too much to do” only leads to “not enough rest”. Help us to be the best we can be without excuse.

But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation. – James 5:12 ESV

Live to Bless,


2 thoughts on “{What If} Our “Too Much” Became Just Right?

  1. Words ‘casually’ spoken usually mean that not a lot of thought has been put into them… When you spoke of people who say ‘if you need something just let me know’… I thought of a few times it has been said from a widow or someone who just needs a person to offer to take them shopping’, that many people say it, but never call to ask if indeed they need anything… and of course you’re right no one want to really call and make a specific request, because they aren’t sure that the person offering ‘really’ meant it… Diane

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