That which we have seen and heard we proclaim also to you, so that you too may have fellowship (koinonia) with us; and indeed our fellowship (koinonia) is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ. ~ 1 John 1:3

Words can be very powerful. Invoking an emotion or feeling that nearly takes on a persona or a depth beyond mere comprehension. That is why I am thankful that God works through my words to be Love. I have tried to connect to others as so many bloggers do, and sometimes that is an awesome heart experience. I have that ever beautiful short list. But sometimes that emotion brought out is not one of joy… it is another. So in light of REAL God connections here it is…

There is a word in the Greek language that was used to describe the interaction between Christ followers and Jesus and how they interacted with each other.

Koinonia. {κοινωνία}: Christian fellowship or communion with God or with fellow Christians; said in particular of the early Christian community.

That word makes me happy and sad at the same time.

Happy because fellowship – really DOING life together – changes our walk significantly. But it saddens me that, just as the definition states, it was a term used mostly in the early days of Christ followers coming together. Why not now too? Several hundreds of years and many divisions later, we have become loners.

I was.

Probably hard for some of you to believe since I am all about encouraging community now. On my blog, in my emails, in my church, in my ministry, in my life. How could I possibly encourage and love if I do not connect with people?

Let me tell you from experience. The answer is —-> there is NO way to do that without community, without sharing, without DOING.


The saddest part is that because of divisions – unnecessary and necessary – many have lost the intimateness we need with each other. And most importantly many have lost that truly intimate friendship with God. All throughout the Bible there are stories of God’s judgement, yes, {and we should be careful not to step into that}, but the truth is He loves us so much that even in His necessary and righteous judgement He loves us still. He loves us more. He chooses us anyway.

That very spiritual bond that He wants with us ~ Koinonia ~ is the same bond He wants us to have with each other. When we are called to His family, we are called to be brothers and sisters.

Think about that for a minute.

We CAN be stronger together than apart. Like blood brothers and sisters.

WE. You and Me. Us Together.

Why isn’t THE church doing this better? Everyday life is meant to be intimately shared together. I love this definition which is more in depth:

Intimate spiritual communion and participative sharing.

Let me tell you that years ago, some 25ish years ago { wow, 25, really??!! Okay… Okay… 28. }, I accepted Christ as my Saviour. I accepted the Gift. But I didn’t give Him all of me back. I still tried to keep control.

Do you ever still try to control even little things? It is hard not to isn’t it?! But I’m telling you from experience, once I gave it ALL to Him things got so much better. No, life is not easy. He never promised easy. But, BETTER! I didn’t feel pressure nor worry over every little thing. I had been stuck in a pattern of weird comfort … I had to have control of things because I knew inside I had no control.

That closed off any opportunity for me to DO life with anyone, especially those whom I could love Jesus with… next to… in every day life. I thought, “I mess up relationships so badly that I am just better off alone.” I took that mentality into my growing relationship with God. I still hung onto the itty-bitties of control. Those tiny ones during the day that I thought I could maneuver. Manipulate is more the word.

“If things go my way because I made them workout, then I’ll thank God.”

NO, I never said that, but I might as well have. He never gave up on me though. He worked around my junk. Thankfully! And He taught me that sharing life, fellowship with other Believers, was in fact important. So I started going to church more, praying that I was where He wanted me to be and meeting those He wanted me to meet. All I had to do was listen.

I leaned in and listened. I had a Koinonia relationship with Him and others that I could lean into.

It really is that simple. I just listened to Him. I let Him do it. I LET HIM. Then it turned into that intimate sharing of life with others in the right way. I never knew it could be like THIS. I never knew I NEEDED THIS. But I did. I needed that intimate fellowship with my brothers and sisters, my family… the same as with my Father. I am sorry it took me nearly 25 years to figure that out, but once I did… well, you are part of the result. And I couldn’t be happier about that. We walk TOGETHER.

Together… we are ALL IN.

Live Blessed,




16 thoughts on “You and Me, Us Together ~ Koinonia

  1. You are so right. Relationship with God and other Christians is so important and necessary to our survival. I avoided relationships too because I thought everything I thought or said was stupid and nobody would be interested in listening to me. Then I decided to join an Alpha course and sat at a table with 7 other people who actually listened to me. From there I attended various small groups and now God has given me the courage to lead my own group. I thank God every day for showing me the value of relationship.

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    1. I’m so glad that you have listened to Jesus. Nothing you say is ever stupid to Him. Those around you will hear Him and His love as you speak when you open up. I am so blessed when you speak up here. I love your comments. I consider you part of my Koinonia. Thank you for that so very much. ❤


  2. Heather, this is a great post. Wow, such truth. I can relate to pretty much everything you wrote here.

    I believe shame is a huge reason why we don’t have closer community. We walk around thinking others will reject us if they knew what was going on inside – or what we struggle with.

    When I entered recovery seven years ago to deal with my depression, PTSD, and addiction, I discovered how disabled I was by shame. It kept me from being vulnerable, which kept people away from my heart. Which kept me isolated.

    The moment I started opening up about what had happened to me in childhood and what I was doing to deal with it (eating disorder), the shame started to melt. I discovered the two greatest secrets of all time: I wasn’t alone and people care.

    I’m writing a piece about it right now in hope that it will unlock the door of shame and allow the kind of fellowship you’re so beautifully encouraging in this piece.

    The enemy wants us quiet and ashamed and lonely. But God wants us close so He can usher in the healing and make us stronger together in Him.

    Loved this post, Heather. And I love your heart, my sister.

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    1. Lori, I love YOUR heart. 🙂 Oh that you open it up for others to learn from and to be blessed by. It is wonderful.

      You bless me by doing that. You bless me with these beautiful comments that you leave. How I wish we could sit down for coffee together and share more. I’m just an email away if you want an extra set of ears.

      Thank you. No. Really, really – thank YOU for being part of my Koinonia.



  3. Good post. God is faithful to us even when we are still trying to do things our way. We all must learn to let go and let God and build a community. A strong community among believers so that we unite in doing His work. Come by and visit my site at

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    1. Thank you, Mary, for dropping by with your lovely comment. It’s hard to let go of all the baggage that comes with community, but letting Him be at the center is the key. Uniting is the great goal and I pray we can do that more as the universal Church so it becomes more important to us locally and personally.

      I will check out your blog. 🙂


  4. I think God knows we all have our own individual bloom time – where we grow in a Koinonia relationship with Him. I think life affects that grown to bloom time – because the people who touch our lives made choices that affect us – but He keeps adding His special miracle grow – and we get there. He loves us so patiently, so pursue-ingly (is that a blue cotton ism? LOL – read your current post) – and He wants that relationship to grow over to other people. Thank you for sharing your sweet heart!

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    1. You made me giggle with your “ism”, dear lady! I needed that. 😉 I hear you on the bloom time. I just long for the day when all Believers become truly in it to be Follwers. Doers and not hearers only. But yes, it is difficult with choices made by us all.
      I am so glad you stopped by. I have been so behind in reading. Work is even hard right now. A writer with painful fingers is no, no, no fun.
      You made me smile!


  5. Hi Heather, not a clue as to how you stumbled onto my blog, but so glad I found yours. I just met with a sister today who was hurting and the koinonia was so sweet. Why do we cut ourselves off from something so valuable? The longer I know the Lord, the more I see there are just a few essentials and any other ‘difference’ can be overcome with love and a determination to maintain the unity of the Spirit.
    Thoughtful stuff here and I can’t wait to be encouraged more.
    Blessings sister 😀


    1. Hi there Kelly!
      First off my peri menopausal foggy brain won’t let me remember how I found your blog! HAHAHA! But I love this you had on your blog:
      Every day I look for the place where the divine intersects with my daily life.

      My life’s mission is all about living ALL IN for Jesus and helping others do so too. So you and I… walk and talk that same way it appears. 🙂

      I can’t wait to dive into your writings MORE!
      Bless you dear,


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